A man hated his wife's cat and he decided to get rid of it. He drove
20 blocks away from home and dropped the cat there. The cat was
already walking up the driveway when he approached his home.
The next day, he decided to drop the cat 40 blocks away but the same
thing happened. He kept increasing the number of blocks but the cat
kept coming home before him.
At last he decided to drive a few miles away, turn right, then left,
past the bridge, then right again and another right and so on until he
reached what he thought was a perfect spot and dropped the cat there.
An hour later.... The man calls his wife at home and asked her, "Jen
is the cat there?" "Yes, why do you ask?" answered the wife.
Frustrated the man said," Put that damn cat on the phone, I am lost
and I need directions to reach home!!!
Moral:
" How much ever we dislike somebody, someday we will need their
assistance. So never worry how many people dislike you... "
Showing posts with label Frustrated. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Frustrated. Show all posts
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Saturday, February 20, 2010
52 Proven Stress Reducers
1. Get up fifteen minutes earlier in the morning.
The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
*
2. Prepare for the morning the evening before..
Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
*
3. Don't rely on your memory. Write down
appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc.
("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory" -)
Old Chinese Proverb
*
4. Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
*
5.Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
*
6. Practice preventive maintenance.. Your car,appliances,home,
and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment."
*
7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
*
8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
*
9... Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
*
10. Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers? whatever? are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
*
11. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments.
Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.
*
12. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.
*
13. Always set up contingency plans, "just in case." ("If for some reason either of us is delayed, here's what we'll do"
kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center,
here's where we'll meet.")
*
14. Relax your standards.The world will not end if the grass doesn't get mowed this weekend.
*
15. Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count them!
*
16. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurried I go, the beholder I get, " idea.)
*
17. Say "No!" Saying "no" to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy
for takes practice,self-respect, and a belief that everyone,
everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone.
*
18. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.) Or use an answering machine.
*
19. Turn "needs" into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.
*
20. Simplify, simplify, simplify?
*
21. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
*
22. Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods.
*
23. Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs.
*
24. Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed.
*
25. Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are.. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go through the stress of losing things.
*
26. When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths.
Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen
and chest expand when you breathe.
*
27. Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective.
*
28. Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through you nose to the count of eight. Then, with lips puckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.
*
29. Inoculate yourself against a feared event. Example: before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you will answer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled.
*
30. When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way
of getting the job done, diversion ? a voluntary change in
activity and/or environment ? may be just what you need.
*
31. Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help
your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving.
*
32. One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc.
*
33. Learn to live one day at a time.
*
34. Every day, do something you really enjoy.
*
35. Add an ounce of love to everything you do.
*
36. Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one in summertime) to relieve tension.
*
37. Do something for somebody else.
*
38. Focus on understanding rather than on being understood; on loving rather than on being loved.
*
39. Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better.
*
40. Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell.
*
41. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon.
*
42. Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I m too old to?," "I m too fat to?," etc.
*
43. Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If you work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek peace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you aren't accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction.
*
44. "Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." That's another way of saying: take care of the today's as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves.
*
45. Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do.
*
46. Allow yourself time ? everyday ? for privacy, quiet, and introspection.
*
47. If an especially unpleasant task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety.
*
48.Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others.
*
49. Don't forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it's just for 15 or 20 minutes.
*
50. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing
something or saying anything that could make matters worse.
*
51. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
*
52. Have an optimistic view of the world.. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
--
YOUR SMILE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND._._._.MAKE IT SOME ONE ELSE'S TOO !
BE HAPPY,IT'S ONE WAY OF BEING WISE,
The inevitable morning mishaps will be less stressful.
*
2. Prepare for the morning the evening before..
Set the breakfast table, make lunches, put out the clothes you plan to wear, etc.
*
3. Don't rely on your memory. Write down
appointment times, when to pick up the laundry, when library books are due, etc.
("The palest ink is better than the most retentive memory" -)
Old Chinese Proverb
*
4. Do nothing which, after being done, leads you to tell a lie.
*
5.Make duplicates of all keys. Bury a house key in a secret spot in the garden and carry a duplicate car key in your wallet, apart from your key ring.
*
6. Practice preventive maintenance.. Your car,appliances,home,
and relationships will be less likely to break down/fall apart "at the worst possible moment."
*
7. Be prepared to wait. A paperback can make a wait in a post office line almost pleasant.
*
8. Procrastination is stressful. Whatever you want to do tomorrow, do today; whatever you want to do today, do it now.
*
9... Plan ahead. Don't let the gas tank get below one-quarter full; keep a well-stocked "emergency shelf" of home staples; don't wait until you're down to your last bus token or postage stamp to buy more; etc.
*
10. Don't put up with something that doesn't work right. If your alarm clock, wallet, shoe laces, windshield wipers? whatever? are a constant aggravation, get them fixed or get new ones.
*
11. Allow 15 minutes of extra time to get to appointments.
Plan to arrive at an airport one hour before domestic departures.
*
12. Eliminate (or restrict) the amount of caffeine in your diet.
*
13. Always set up contingency plans, "just in case." ("If for some reason either of us is delayed, here's what we'll do"
kind of thing. Or, "If we get split up in the shopping center,
here's where we'll meet.")
*
14. Relax your standards.The world will not end if the grass doesn't get mowed this weekend.
*
15. Pollyanna-Power! For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count them!
*
16. Ask questions. Taking a few moments to repeat back directions, what someone expects of you, etc., can save hours. (The old "the hurried I go, the beholder I get, " idea.)
*
17. Say "No!" Saying "no" to extra projects, social activities, and invitations you know you don't have the time or energy
for takes practice,self-respect, and a belief that everyone,
everyday, needs quiet time to relax and be alone.
*
18. Unplug your phone. Want to take a long bath, meditate, sleep, or read without interruption? Drum up the courage to temporarily disconnect. (The possibility of there being a terrible emergency in the next hour or so is almost nil.) Or use an answering machine.
*
19. Turn "needs" into preferences. Our basic physical needs translate into food, water, and keeping warm. Everything else is a preference. Don't get attached to preferences.
*
20. Simplify, simplify, simplify?
*
21. Make friends with non-worriers. Nothing can get you into the habit of worrying faster than associating with chronic worrywarts.
*
22. Get up and stretch periodically if your job requires that you sit for extended periods.
*
23. Wear earplugs. If you need to find quiet at home, pop in some earplugs.
*
24. Get enough sleep. If necessary, use an alarm clock to remind you to go to bed.
*
25. Create order out of chaos. Organize your home and workspace so that you always know exactly where things are.. Put things away where they belong and you won't have to go through the stress of losing things.
*
26. When feeling stressed, most people tend to breathe in short, shallow breaths. When you breathe like this, stale air is not expelled, oxidation of the tissues is incomplete, and muscle tension frequently results. Check your breathing throughout the day, and before, during, and after high-pressure situations. If you find your stomach muscles are knotted and your breathing is shallow, relax all your muscles and take several deep, slow breaths.
Note how, when you're relaxed, both your abdomen
and chest expand when you breathe.
*
27. Writing your thoughts and feelings down (in a journal, or on paper to be thrown away) can help you clarify things and can give you a renewed perspective.
*
28. Try the following yoga technique whenever you feel the need to relax. Inhale deeply through you nose to the count of eight. Then, with lips puckered, exhale very slowly through your mouth to the count of 16, or for as long as you can. Concentrate on the long sighing sound and feel the tension dissolve. Repeat 10 times.
*
29. Inoculate yourself against a feared event. Example: before speaking in public, take time to go over every part of the experience in your mind. Imagine what you'll wear, what the audience will look like, how you will present your talk, what the questions will be and how you will answer them, etc. Visualize the experience the way you would have it be. You'll likely find that when the time comes to make the actual presentation, it will be "old hat" and much of your anxiety will have fled.
*
30. When the stress of having to get a job done gets in the way
of getting the job done, diversion ? a voluntary change in
activity and/or environment ? may be just what you need.
*
31. Talk it out. Discussing your problems with a trusted friend can help
your mind of confusion so you can concentrate on problem solving.
*
32. One of the most obvious ways to avoid unnecessary stress is to select an environment (work, home, leisure) which is in line with your personal needs and desires. If you hate desk jobs, don't accept a job which requires that you sit at a desk all day. If you hate to talk politics, don't associate with people who love to talk politics, etc.
*
33. Learn to live one day at a time.
*
34. Every day, do something you really enjoy.
*
35. Add an ounce of love to everything you do.
*
36. Take a hot bath or shower (or a cool one in summertime) to relieve tension.
*
37. Do something for somebody else.
*
38. Focus on understanding rather than on being understood; on loving rather than on being loved.
*
39. Do something that will improve your appearance. Looking better can help you feel better.
*
40. Schedule a realistic day. Avoid the tendency to schedule back-to-back appointments; allow time between appointments for a breathing spell.
*
41. Become more flexible. Some things are worth not doing perfectly and some issues are well to compromise upon.
*
42. Eliminate destructive self-talk: "I m too old to?," "I m too fat to?," etc.
*
43. Use your weekend time for a change of pace. If you work week is slow and patterned, make sure there is action and time for spontaneity built into your weekends. If your work week is fast-paced and full of people and deadlines, seek peace and solitude during your days off. Feel as if you aren't accomplishing anything at work? Tackle a job on the weekend which you can finish to your satisfaction.
*
44. "Worry about the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves." That's another way of saying: take care of the today's as best you can and the yesterdays and the tomorrows will take care of themselves.
*
45. Do one thing at a time. When you are with someone, be with that person and with no one or nothing else. When you are busy with a project, concentrate on doing that project and forget about everything else you have to do.
*
46. Allow yourself time ? everyday ? for privacy, quiet, and introspection.
*
47. If an especially unpleasant task faces you, do it early in the day and get it over with; then the rest of your day will be free of anxiety.
*
48.Learn to delegate responsibility to capable others.
*
49. Don't forget to take a lunch break. Try to get away from your desk or work area in body and mind, even if it's just for 15 or 20 minutes.
*
50. Forget about counting to 10. Count to 1,000 before doing
something or saying anything that could make matters worse.
*
51. Have a forgiving view of events and people. Accept the fact that we live in an imperfect world.
*
52. Have an optimistic view of the world.. Believe that most people are doing the best they can.
--
YOUR SMILE IS YOUR BEST FRIEND._._._.MAKE IT SOME ONE ELSE'S TOO !
BE HAPPY,IT'S ONE WAY OF BEING WISE,
Friday, February 19, 2010
When You Feel Frustrated
Are you making your life impossible? When you hit a wall and people and projects don’t work out the way you planned, you tend to apply more force. Frustrated, you take it up a notch, pushing even harder for success. However, forcing an issue does not usually get results. Getting caught up in the frenzy of seeking to control, you thrash around as though caught in a riptide dangerously being pulled under. Ironically, all you have to do is to easily swim sideways, a few feet away to safety and freedom. When relationships or work are not going your way, try to flow with the current…
Flow means creating balance in body, mind and spirit. We need to stabilize ourselves. Sometimes we have to let the current carry us, to yield to that which we cannot control and put our trust in others, or the universe. We can break up our life into moments and be satisfied with the moment. If that moment is frustrating, the next moment can be better. Sometimes we have to do nothing, but wait and collect our energies. We have to give up our preconceived neat plans, take a detour or feel our way around intuitively.
When we flow, we become one with what we are doing, and we are graceful: Like a golf swing that emanates from the golfer without his mind breaking up the swing into a series of prescribed movements. When we don’t flow such as when we first learn to dance, we might sacrifice rhythm and style for technique. We concentrate so hard on getting it right, that our movements are forced and we forget to have fun.
Many of us experience frustration trying to control life partners, elderly parents and children - perhaps all at the same time. Although we mean well, “We know what’s good for them,” we have to respect the will and flow of others. Like love, we cannot compel, but instead, set it free like a bird and hope that it flies back to us. Carl Jung aptly said, “The shoe that fits us so well, pinches the foot of another.”
Instead of feeling depleted and frustrated, learn how to flow. Here are some suggestions:
If you are forcing an issue and are not successful, take a break for awhile.
Sit quietly in a natural setting and tap into your peaceful, loving self. Feel how large and infinite your spirit is. Absorb the landscape, whether an ocean, a garden, or a picture. Intuitive thoughts will flow freely and inspire you. They will come to you.
Play music that revitalizes and inspires you. Music provides the necessary stimulus to induce flow.
Say no to activities or people who rob you of your quiet time.
Surround yourself with positive people to build up your energy levels. We do absorb energy from others. Be careful of what kind of energy it is.
Be patient with your goals. Tackle small, manageable goals. See what’s right in front of you and immerse yourself in it and appreciate this small accomplishment. Ease up on a deadline for your grand vision.
As things unfold, flow with the changes and accept different directions, criticism and detours along the way. You might find greater success and happiness than you originally envisioned.
Find Quick Stress Relief
Stopping your stress response relatively early on can help you to respond more calmly rather than reacting to stress in a way that you might regret. Quick stress relievers such as breathing exercises or Progressive Muscle Relaxation, for example, can calm you down and help you feel less frustrated and more able to handle what comes. Then you can take the next steps with a clearer head. Learn more about quick stress relievers so you can be prepared for what comes.
Change Your Attitude
Much of whether or not we see something as stressful depends on our habitual thought patterns and how we process the world around us. For example, those who see things as under their control tend to be less stressed about what happens to them, as they see that they always have options for change. Studies have shown health benefits to optimistic ways of thinking as well. Learn more about how to develop a resilient state of mind, and you’ll feel less stressed.
Change Your Lifestyle
If you feel yourself to be continually on edge, it’s possible that something needs to change in your life. If you cut down on commitments, take good care of your body, and make other healthy lifestyle changes, you’ll be dealing with less overall stress so you’ll be more effective at managing the stress that you do encounter. Read more about the most effective changes you can make to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Draw on Social Support
Often people are helped by having the release and support of sharing their troubles with close friends, family or loved ones. While it’s not healthy to constantly complain about an endless list of woes, talking to a trusted friend about frustrations now and then (and returning the favor by being a good listener) can help you process what’s going on with your life, and enable you to brainstorm solutions. If you don’t have someone you’re comfortable sharing your situation with, seeing a therapist or starting a regular journaling practice have both been shown to have benefits as well.
Have Some Regular Stress Relief Activities
To maintain a less stressed lifestyle, it’s important to have some regular stress relieving activities in your life. Those who regularly walk, meditate, or enjoy other stress relief activities in their lives tend to feel less stressed in general and less reactive to specific stressors that arise through the day. To find out which stress relief options would work best for your personality and lifestyle, I recommend the Stress Reliever Personality Test, which allows you to answer a few questions and find many options that should suit you.
Flow means creating balance in body, mind and spirit. We need to stabilize ourselves. Sometimes we have to let the current carry us, to yield to that which we cannot control and put our trust in others, or the universe. We can break up our life into moments and be satisfied with the moment. If that moment is frustrating, the next moment can be better. Sometimes we have to do nothing, but wait and collect our energies. We have to give up our preconceived neat plans, take a detour or feel our way around intuitively.
When we flow, we become one with what we are doing, and we are graceful: Like a golf swing that emanates from the golfer without his mind breaking up the swing into a series of prescribed movements. When we don’t flow such as when we first learn to dance, we might sacrifice rhythm and style for technique. We concentrate so hard on getting it right, that our movements are forced and we forget to have fun.
Many of us experience frustration trying to control life partners, elderly parents and children - perhaps all at the same time. Although we mean well, “We know what’s good for them,” we have to respect the will and flow of others. Like love, we cannot compel, but instead, set it free like a bird and hope that it flies back to us. Carl Jung aptly said, “The shoe that fits us so well, pinches the foot of another.”
Instead of feeling depleted and frustrated, learn how to flow. Here are some suggestions:
If you are forcing an issue and are not successful, take a break for awhile.
Sit quietly in a natural setting and tap into your peaceful, loving self. Feel how large and infinite your spirit is. Absorb the landscape, whether an ocean, a garden, or a picture. Intuitive thoughts will flow freely and inspire you. They will come to you.
Play music that revitalizes and inspires you. Music provides the necessary stimulus to induce flow.
Say no to activities or people who rob you of your quiet time.
Surround yourself with positive people to build up your energy levels. We do absorb energy from others. Be careful of what kind of energy it is.
Be patient with your goals. Tackle small, manageable goals. See what’s right in front of you and immerse yourself in it and appreciate this small accomplishment. Ease up on a deadline for your grand vision.
As things unfold, flow with the changes and accept different directions, criticism and detours along the way. You might find greater success and happiness than you originally envisioned.
Find Quick Stress Relief
Stopping your stress response relatively early on can help you to respond more calmly rather than reacting to stress in a way that you might regret. Quick stress relievers such as breathing exercises or Progressive Muscle Relaxation, for example, can calm you down and help you feel less frustrated and more able to handle what comes. Then you can take the next steps with a clearer head. Learn more about quick stress relievers so you can be prepared for what comes.
Change Your Attitude
Much of whether or not we see something as stressful depends on our habitual thought patterns and how we process the world around us. For example, those who see things as under their control tend to be less stressed about what happens to them, as they see that they always have options for change. Studies have shown health benefits to optimistic ways of thinking as well. Learn more about how to develop a resilient state of mind, and you’ll feel less stressed.
Change Your Lifestyle
If you feel yourself to be continually on edge, it’s possible that something needs to change in your life. If you cut down on commitments, take good care of your body, and make other healthy lifestyle changes, you’ll be dealing with less overall stress so you’ll be more effective at managing the stress that you do encounter. Read more about the most effective changes you can make to lead a healthy lifestyle.
Draw on Social Support
Often people are helped by having the release and support of sharing their troubles with close friends, family or loved ones. While it’s not healthy to constantly complain about an endless list of woes, talking to a trusted friend about frustrations now and then (and returning the favor by being a good listener) can help you process what’s going on with your life, and enable you to brainstorm solutions. If you don’t have someone you’re comfortable sharing your situation with, seeing a therapist or starting a regular journaling practice have both been shown to have benefits as well.
Have Some Regular Stress Relief Activities
To maintain a less stressed lifestyle, it’s important to have some regular stress relieving activities in your life. Those who regularly walk, meditate, or enjoy other stress relief activities in their lives tend to feel less stressed in general and less reactive to specific stressors that arise through the day. To find out which stress relief options would work best for your personality and lifestyle, I recommend the Stress Reliever Personality Test, which allows you to answer a few questions and find many options that should suit you.
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